Camera hates you and I will tell you why.

'We don't feel comfortable behind camera' - I hear that sentence over and over again, just worded differently. And this is fine! There's nothing wrong in feeling uncomfortable when someone is constantly watching you. This is even natural, I would say. But imagine if you were comfortable.

Feels good, doesn't it? Let me tell you something - it looks good as well!


Camera hates you if you hate the camera. And you hate the camera if you hate yourself. It's an unpopular opinion, I know. But I am not here to say what is easy. I am here to help you get those amazing, natural, candid wedding photos in Denmark that you always wanted!

Lesbian couple on the rainbow street during the natural photoshoot with LGBT photographer from Denmark, having fun.

3 questions you need to ask yourself.

Before we dive deeper and before I give you some real examples and easy to follow advice how to solve your camera problem, you need to answer three qestions:


  1. Why do I feel anxious in front of the camera? - I bet most of you would answer 'Well, I just dont like the way I look on them'. And here's the real issue - do you OBJECTIVELY look bad, or you THINK you look bad? I grew up super insecure and it took me some work and thinking to finally get rid of it and believe that I can and I DO look good on photos. And so can you. Next two questions will help you do that.
  2. Who am I doing it for? - Do you want to have those amazing wedding photos from Denmark to cherish them for ever or do you want the because you want to share them? There's nothing bad in sharing beautiful moments with friends and family, dont get me wrong. But this should not be the main reason you are paying a lot of money to the photographer, you're putting your time and effort into the photoshoot FOR OTHERS. Its your day, your photos.
  3. Who cares? - A lot of people feel uncomfortable during the photoshoot, because they are wondering if they look weird, that others would stare. Maybe they look like fools running around and playing tag first time in years , getting the piggy ride, throwing the snow into each other and doing all those things that photographer asks them to do. Or maybe the photographer would think that they are the worst couple ever?

Seriously, who cares? It's not like you're going to meet all those people again, I can bet you

on that.

Oh, and one more thing - in 99% cases none of the above would even happen.

Candid getting ready photo of the bride and groom in their hotel room captured by Copenhagen based photographer Kat Deptula

5 things that will change your life forever.

Or, at least, the way you look in photos. They are easy to follow, yet might be challenging to start. So, you want natural, bright in and out wedding photos, don't you? By following those steps you will maximise your chances to get what you want. But remember - you might get used to it and start loving photoshoots! :)


  1. Find your perfect wedding photographer in Denmark. And it's ok if that is not me. :) You need to feel the connection, you need to feel the CLICK with each other. I will tell you something - it happened to me before that I did not take the job because I didnt feel it. And it's perfectly fine if you think you wont be able to be yourself in front of that person. Just remember, we are going to talk and it''s not like we are working in the photo factory! We are going to spend at least couple of hours together and it's important to feel good during the whole process. And I assure you - you do not need the video call if you don't like them. You can feel the energy of photographer even from the emails you exchange. There's plenty on arthicles about how businesses are not for every Client. What I am telling you is you are not the Client for very business. Listen to your gut and hire someone who is on the same page as you are.
  2. Breathe. - This one is easier said than done, but once you break that invisible barriere, your photos will never be the same, I promise. I mean it, literally, breathe. When you are stressed, your whole body is tensed, your jaw, your fingers, your back, everything. And this is visible in photos. Deep breath helps you to calm your body down. Then there's the mental breathing. Be aware of the camera, but don't pay too much attention to it. It's your day, youre standing next to love of your life. Be in that moment, embrace it. Don't think what others will think, don't think about what you should and should not do. Today everything is allowed.
  3. Don't be perfect, be awkward. - Are you perfect in real life? I know I'm not. I'm a bit crazy, always with messy hair, tripping over the smallest rock on the side walk. I almost never wear white, because the minute I touch it the clothes are dirty. Why do you want photos that don't show your true self? Its not gonna work and you know that. You tried so many times and you just assumed you don't like photoshoots. Have you thought about why some photographers don't offer sessoins that are shorter than an hour? That's because at the beginning everyone feels a bit awkward. It's normal and it happens to EVERYONE. I worked with professional models too and I can assure you that it often happens to them as well. You need to get used to the new situation, the photographer also needs time to feel you and your energy. Just give yourself the right to not being perfect for once and you will be amazed what the results would be.
Silhouettes of the couple embracing during the sun set captured by photographer from Copenhagen

4. Forget about the next top model. - You DO NOT have to know what to do. You are not professional models and even them need guidance sometimes. I like showing my Couples the photos on the camera during the photoshoot, so that they can see how awesome they look. It's natural that you might feel lost and have zero ideas about where to stand, what to do with your hands, what to do to get those fun, natural wedding photos. Well, this is EXACTLY why you pay a lot of money to your wedding photographer (especially in Denmark, haha). You also buy guidance, so the pose, the frame, the whole scenario is not on your shoulders any more

5. Trust your photographer. - Itmight be the hardest of al the points to follow, but I would say it's the most important. You chose the right Copenhagen photographer for a reason. Now just relax and trust the process. You will most likely be asked to do weird things like whispering some daddy jokes into each other ears and it will not feel natural. I mean, most likely it won't. Just believe me, that the photographer has a reason to ask you for all those things. When I am shooting I want to take the best damn wedding photo in the history of Copenhagen. :) I have absolutely no reason to ask you to do things that will lead to bad photos. Not even one. I want you to be happy, to leave me a good review, but also to have something to share with my future Clients. I want those magazine prints, I want to win those competitions. All of them. I need your wedding photos to be the best of the best as much as you do.

NOW IT'S A MOMENT OF TRUTH.

I know it might feel overwhelming - all these points, things to remember about. If I want you to remember one thing after reading this guide to natural wedding photos in Denmark, it would be this: YOU ARE AWESOME.